I'm flattered you think so, but actually, no.

Dear readers, I pose a question to you:
What does it mean to "seem gay"?

I ask because I've been told repeatedly that I do, in fact, seem gay, but few people are able to tell me why. Here are some of the attempts at explanations I've received in the past:
"You are just one of those girls who is not gay but destined to be hit on by girls all their lives."
"Maybe it's all the bright colors you wear? You do seem to really like rainbows."
"You're so involved with the queer community, I just assumed!"

To which my rebuttals usually go something like:
(whiny voice) "But whyyyy?!?"
"Aren't I allowed to like bright colors? It's an aesthetic thing, not a sexual thing."
"Well of course I'm involved in the queer community! I'm bisexual, & 80% of my friends are queer!"

I have no shame surrounding my sexuality. I just don't want males to write me off as a lesbian, especially if I like them, because it limits me, & that is scary. Just as a well-rounded hetero man wants to date both blonde & brunette ladies in his lifetime, a well-rounded bi chick like myself wants to date both men & women in hers.

Many homosexuals, especially femme lesbians, have issues communicating their gayness to the outside world because they simply don't "read as" gay. But what about me, the Kinsey-2 who never seems to "read as" straight, even when she wants to?

I don't know what any of this means, but I'd really like it if one day I figured out the answer to my initial question: Why do I "seem gay"?

Queer street fashion

I'd like to eventually make queer street fashion a regular part of this blog, because I feel that outward presentation of sexuality and gender identity is fascinating and unique for everyone. Here are a few shots I took at last year's Pride Parade & Dyke March - you can click on them to see them larger.


I love this woman's adventurousness with color, all her many necklaces, her cool hippie vibe, her dog's matching collar, & the fact that she's kind of "dressing young" without looking unnatural at all. Absolutely gorgeous.


I was totally blown away by this girl (in the lamé). I can't imagine ever being as brave or as awesome as she is. Rock on, grrl.


The girls & I started referring to this cutie as "the little drummer dyke." She led the Dyke March with her ballin' beats. I love her crazy spiky hair & the fact that she looks incredible even in such casual, understated clothes. Also, right after I took this, I went up to her & told her I loved her drumming, & she gave me the most charmingly shy "thank you" ever.


Love the sandals! & yet more gold lamé. & of course the hair! Swoon.